start being a sugarbabe or findom

Hello, I received your welcome message and decided to do the interview, here are my answers. I would prefer if the interview is anonymous if you publish it, but it’s not mandatory.

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How did you start being a sugarbabe or findom? What motivated you to it? I started being a FinDomme two years ago when I met my first long-term submissive, who has a financial fetish. I’ve tried doing professionnal domination, but I prefer when there is personal connection with the people I dominate. Therefore, since the last month, I’m trying also the Sugar lifestyle out of curiosity.

What were some of the negative experiences you had? The only bad experiences I had are men who book dates and never show up or having to protect a financial sub from someone who tried to use me to rinse him.

What were some of the more positive experiences you have had? I’ve had a lasting and very fun relationship with my first submissive, whom I still see sometimes.

What advice can you give to others who would like to try it? First, stay true to yourself ladies, respect your own boundaries as well as the other person’s and don’t do something you would regret only for some cash. Don’t fall for men pressuring you to do something you don’t want to. Second, use safe methods to contact the person and to arrange dates or sessions. Safe means a public place that you can get out easily in case of problem for the first meeting. It also means not giving out personal information like your full name, bank info, or anything like that. Third, men who are willing to pay women for kink, relationships, or fun are people too, therefore they deserve to be respected as people. Abuse can come both ways and it’s not something to do.

What do you like most about being a sugarbabe or being in findom? I haven’t had a Sugar Daddy yet, but from findom, I like the Dominant/submissive relation that it implies and let’s be honest, the money is sweet too.

What do you find most attractive in a sugardaddy or slave? Honesty, intelligence, a good sense of humour, an open mind, good communication and long-term.

Who knows about your profession or hobby? What was their reaction? My friends who are in the fetish scene know and they are okay with it.

Have you ever consider not doing it anymore? why? Yes, at the beginning because engaging in an alternative lifestyle can make someone prey to social judgement and contempt from people who don’t understand.

Can you live off it well or just enough for some expenses? Honestly, I’ve been able to survive off it one year, then I had to find a reguliar job and I’m also a student. Now, I’m trying to live off it, but I don’t expect to get rich with it. Stay in school! 🙂

How has your life changed with it? I’ve became more confident and I learned a lot about human interactions, society and psychology.